A simple Relationship Spread

Original spread explained by author of the blog Here

Her Heart:
The High Priestess

In her heart, she is following her intuition & whatever her inner-voice tells her. She is waiting, patiently for events to unfold & her only guidance is her heart & whatever is within. She is willing to wait & see what reveals itself.

Her Mind:
Knight of Swords

In her mind, she is ready to take action, move forward. She wants to act on impulse, cut the crap & see all the mystery behind it all.

The cards we have for her are opposites, she is definitely facing a mind vs. heart battle. Her heart tells her to stand still, & her mind tells her to be all rational & reasonable about it.

His Heart:
Three of Swords

Oops! He is going through some kind of pain, most probably hurt with some words (May be when she said something like Knight of Swords, listening to her Head only, she unintentionally hurt him). He is in pain, but what he knows is what he was supposed to know.

His Mind:
Temperance

He is trying to be calm, and finding healing (for his heart may be). He is showing balance, he is mentally stable, working patiently towards his goal.

His situation looks interesting too, he is not having any heart against head battle. He is rather working them together to create his comfort & peace.

Foundation of the relationship:
Judgement

A new fresh start is the foundation of this relationship.This relationship is purely based on a reawakening & knowing what you must do. The couple actually told that this was their second encounter & they decided to give it another go this time.

Advice: FOR HER
Knight of Wands

Do now, think later. Be adventurous, leave the complications & the head vs. heart right where it is. You can do it & you must put on your best charming face & your best adventurous self & do whatever the heat of the moment suggests.

Outcome:
Ten of Cups

Oh... wow! This is great. You can actually have this relationship reaching the best potential if the advice is followed. Ten of Cups assures there is a complete emotional satisfaction guaranteed if you just go for it.

Looking at this spread:
She is definitely torn in two different direction, which makes her all gloomy. He on the other hand is trying to cope /heal his wounds. Their relationship is based on a true calling from heaven & they must wake up to this call which brought them together. She must be daring & confident in this relationship & she will have her fairy-tale happy ending.

Relationship happiness Spread by Lisa

original spread & author's blog here

1)What you and your partner are thinking about each other Ace of wands & Seven of wands

I think about him as a new adventure, this is true because when I sent him my first message I actually was looking to rekindle the old spark. He,to me, is my new beginning and that too a fiery one.

Him on other hand, thinks of me as someone courageous and he actually told me the same too. I actually went ahead & confronted him to solve the tension between us so he is kind of impressed with my directness.

2)What you and your partner are saying to each other (how you communicate)
 Two of wands & Death

I basically tell him all the time to have fun with life, keep a balance (number two) & analyse if whatever he is working hard for is worth it.
He on the other hand tells me his stories of why he is the way he is. He is a Capricorn & a workaholic. For him life is serious business & he is miserable sometimes. That is why these two cards explain it very well.

Alternatively, I weigh my words, I evaluate my words before I tell him anything & he is trying to transform the way he has been & is now communicating with me.

3) What you and your partner are doing to each other (how you treat each other)
Knight of Wands & Lovers
I treat him with passion, adventure & fiery nature, because I'm an Aries. He treats me like someone he can share things with.

4)Advice on how to create more harmony between what you think, say and do.
 Four of Cups & Page of Cups

These cards tell me , being Cups, that we need to work on our sensitivity & emotions, since both of us are Aries & Capricorn respectively, emotions are not really our thing.
I have to be more self-absorbed & I need to see whats around. For me this card is about "help will come" so I have to be more considerate of what I have instead of what I want to have. About him he has to learn about his emotional & sensitive side.

5)Current happiness potential
Ten of Pentacles
This card is all about happiness, completeness, family, riches, health, wealth & a stage where things are all set in order to start a new cycle. We have a potential to reach our true happiness & complete this cycle if we both pay attention to our emotional needs.

About him!

Recent Pluto retrograde transits brought some people from past, some people I was obsessed with, back into my life. I felt my intuition quite high today so I asked a few questions about a particular person:

1. Does he has feelings for me:

10 of Wands & Queen of Pentacles

Ten of Wands is my No card because there is too much going on in that person's mind. He is actually a very responsible kind of man & he has lots of responsibilities. This combination shows that he has responsibilities or burdens towards her family, mother in particular. Its like he has to work for bringing food on the table. No room for romance in this man's life apparently.

2. Will there be a long term relationship with this man:

The Lovers & Two of Cups

I have pulled these cards again for this man. I last time pulled these cards for what he wants. It looks like there is a reconciliation in store for us, & we will meet again, this time as lovers.

3. What stops him from approaching me:
Ten of Pentacles & Eight of Cups

The man in the Eight of Cups is leaving the beautiful scenery of Ten of Pentacles behind. It looks like he has had some financial security, a happy family time but now he is leaving on another quest which is why he is not contacting me. I'm not sure if he has recently started a new job or anything but I believe he is looking for something & when he has found it, he will return to me.

Will he come back, Part 2

Original spread here

This spread is becoming one of my favourites. This reading was done for a couple who have been out of each other's lives for about 7 yrs and have met again. S wanted to know if they can be back together or anything further than just being nice to each other can happen between them.

Will he come back spread

1. Your motivation – The first card shows you the real underlying reason for your desire to reconnect. It indicates if you want them back to soothe a bruised ego or if there is true love there. It tells you if you feel that you didn’t learn all you needed to learn or if you are just struggling with letting go.

In this position we have Eight of Swords. Eight of Swords is my card for misunderstandings which need to be sorted out. This is the card which shows when one person needs to explain themselves or get some questions answered but it does not happen mainly because there are inhibitions. With this card here, I do not think she wants him because she loves him, but mainly because she has some unresolved issues with this guy.

2. & 3. What you had – These two cards represent the relationship dynamic you had in the past and sheds further light on the first card.

We have Tower & Five of Swords in this position. Tower is a shock or an unforeseen event that destroyed everything,however, it did make one of them very happy. May be one of them was happy to destroy the other's life.  The Five of Swords is a card of betrayal, where one person wins the other person but its not worth it. This explains the card 1. There have been issues in the past which affected one of them badly (possibly her) & thus she needs to release herself from that. She needs to know why it all suddenly fell apart.

4. The handle – This card shows you what action you would need to take to reconnect. 

Five of Wands is the card of competition & discussion. This card in this position shows that she might have to fight for his attention, there may be someone else in his life right now, & she will have to face some competition but this card is also about success after struggle. Challenges are ahead & the only way to him is through this.

5. The lock – This is the main challenge/obstacle that lies between you and your AWOL lover.

Seven of Swords, there is evasive behavior on both sides. Thiings cannot simply improve till you stand up & fight for it as explained in the Handle position. This card is also about deception & lies. 

6. An outside influence currently affecting the situation – No need to elaborate.

Five of Pentacles, mainly financial losses or unfavourable situation. This person may be too pre occupied with his financial position right now. 

7. 8. & 9. What lies on the other side of the door – If you know that it is best not to push through, you’ll at least have some idea of what is happening there and why things are best left alone.

Three of Cups - Queen of Swords & Two of Cups

There is a wonderful indication here that things will end in happiness & basically reconciliation between them, if she chooses to unlock the door. 

10. The key – If you received a green light for using that door handle, then this is the key that unlocks the lock and gives you the understanding you need to open the door.

The Lovers
The ultimate card for love & romantic relationships. This card is also associated with choices, but I take it as passionate love, & not choices.

Overall we can see there have been some misunderstandings & some hurtful feelings & grudges from the past. This is the reason she needs a reconnection to release the grudge & talk things through. She can do this by discussing, brainstorming & confronting the situations however the challenge is the fight to let it be and move on silently. There is also a factor of financial problems effecting the situation. However, if she succeeds in opening the door, I see there is a better chance for them being friends & potentially lovers too. The key to unlocking the door is love, a choice & a decision. She chooses to take him back or not.

There are three 5's in the reading. These three cards show difficulties in connecting back. 

Will he come back Tarot spread (Updated)

Original spread here;

It should have been "Should he come back?" spread because it gives us so much insight into situation. I have already done this spread once and now I need to do it again.

Will he come back tarot spread

The First card tells motivation why you want this person back;

King of Swords:
I usually look at court cards as people instead of as feelings or situations. The King of Swords can be the "he" in question. The reason for wanting him back is because either the querent is fancied by his intellect and his gift of gab or the querent wants things to be fair and just. The attribute of fair and just comes from this man's sword he is holding.

 The querent said she wants him back because there have been some misunderstandings and she wants to clarify those and then peacefully decide whether to move on but she believes she deserves a chance to be understood.


Past is Cards 2 & 3:
Three of Wands and Ten of Pentacles

The Three of Wands is about dreaming big, looking at bigger picture and planning how to make your dreams come true. The Ten of Pentacles is the card of ultimate material success and financial abundance. Being number 10 in the suits of Pentacles, its the achievement of dreams, financially well-off period, success and basically a great card. Together it looks like they had a long-term planning to grow old together or live happily-ever-after. The Ten of Pentacles in past position also indicates that the foundation of the matter is material comfort.

The querent updated that financial problems lead to the current situation. They had a plan for having family and having a life-time together but somehow things did not pan out the way they should have.

The Action/Handle of the door:
This card number 4 tells what needs to be done to bring him back:
Temperance:
This card means, patience, trying to find balance, healing, finding middle ground in an argument, and above all, mixing different actions to find the right thing. The Temperance is also a card which requires calm and patience so I believe no fast action will do that. She needs to find the right amount of push and pull to bring this guy back. First of all, step back, break contact, find inner-peace, find inner-strength, heal yourself, and also make sure you look at both sides of the story. If you find him pushing you away there is a reason probably. Try to be patient, very calm.

The Challenge:
Three of Swords;
ohh not good. This looks like what has separated you two is hurting each other's feelings and now both feel sad and heartbroken and this is the main challenge. Its funny that heartbreak and sorrow is the lock and the action is healing and finding peace. This card does not only show the pain you are feeling, but also the pain you are inflicting upon others. With Temperance, it means you have to heal what you have inflicted upon both you and him.

Outside influences on situation:
The World:
The outer influences on the situation look welcoming. There has been a project which reached its end successfully. It also shows that both people are busy right now with their work or their lives. But its a good card and the outside influences are not negatively effecting the situation.

What lies on the other side:
Knight of Wands, Death & Nine of Cups
The Knights are usually messengers. This knight brings sudden solutions. This knight is fast and adventurous. He can also be a man coming in your time, can be the ex-man too. The Death card represents something coming to an end and The Nine of Cups is the ultimately wish card which fulfils your wishes.
Them three together say that there is a man coming up, or a new adventure coming up which will quickly end a chapter in querent's life and whatever querent's been wishing for, she will have better than that.

The Key:
Tower:
This card basically talks about bringing it all down and then starting fresh. This card typically says, change the situation and change it drastically. Even if it means breaking ties and then re-building them, do that.

Overall, it looks like things were great with them, and now she misses him. She can be patient and should focus on self-healing because the main challenge that lies between them is the pain and sorrow. The outside influences are also supporting her. In future there can be a quick ending to what she has been wishing for but she will get far better than what she wanted. She might have to rebuild the relationship from zero.

There are 2 swords, 2 wands, 1 cups and 1 Pentacles card. Four cards are major cards which indicate most of the things are out of her control.

I welcome opinions and suggestions on this spread and its interpretation. 


Update: Well the client has exactly incorporated the techniques which are elaborated by the Temperance card and they are back in touch. It has come to surface that the real reason why he was trying to get away because some of the things she said hurt him bad (Three of Swords in challenge position) because of which he was shutting her out. Things are not normal, the way they interact has changed (Death) but she is determined and happy. It looks like she will just about make it. (Nine of Cups).

Relationship Problem Solving Spread

Original spread here
Deck images used: Druidcraft Tarot

Card 1: The problem, the real question; present situation, reason for asking.
Wheel of Fortune

Cards 2,3,4,5 and 6 represent the nature of the relationship.

Card 2: Shows how you relate to the other person.  Strength
Card 3: Shows how the other person relates to you. The Magician
Card 4: Shows what the relationship looks like as a whole. The High Priestess
Card 5: Shows your hopes, needs and desires in the relationship. Page of Wands
Card 6: Shows the other person's hopes, needs, and desires in the relationship.
Six of Swords

The Wheel of Fortune as card one shows that there has been some fateful event, some thing that happened out of the control of both persons involved and this has brought a crucial matter up. The wheel of Fortune is a change, a movement and a next chapter card. There are some big changes happening in the relationship.

The way these two people relate to each other is very different. One person is compassionate and understanding while the other person is trying to be the master-mind and Mr. know-it-all. Magician is also someone who cons other people but he has vast mental power. We see infinity sign on both cards, they both have limitless energy in this relationship. The Magician is also the powerful and the controlling one, the master at his game. 

On the whole the relationship looks deep and mysterious. Things are not completely revealed yet. There is a great effect of going with intuition and following one's guts here. Overall the relationship looks serene and composed but who knows what lies behind the curtain.

Cards 5 & 6 shows they both want, hope and desire same thing, change, adventure, a new outlook. Both 6 of Swords and Page of Wands are the cards of adventure and leaving things behind and moving on. But If we look closely, they both are moving in opposite direction. 

Cards 7,8,9, represent conflicts and insights into impediments.

Card 7: What is causing conflict or impediments. Ace of Wands
Card 8: Represents your perspective of the problem and how you will deal with it. Five of Wands
Card 9: Represents the other person's perspective on the problem and how they will deal with. The Devil

This card Ace of Wands shows there is a new beginning and the raw power and the energy is becoming difficult to handle for both individuals. 

The person 1 is taking the confrontation door to solve this issue while the other person is playing mysterious and cold here. The shadow of the Devil behind the sleeping lovers shows that this person does not want to confront the situation, he wants to play dark and illusive. He wants to remain a slave to some illusion he has created about the dynamics of this relationship in which things are happy and content and he is the master.

Looking at the people, person 1 is very understanding and compassionate in the relationship but her actions are too child-like. She wants kiddish stuff. To solve the problem she wants to confront the problem heads on.

The guy in the situations is powerful and he believes he can make the relationship go in any direction he wants. He hopes and seeks a change in his life through this relationship but he does not want to solve the problem, he rather wants to stay a slave to his illusions.

Cards 10, 11, 12 offers insight and solutions

Card 10: What needs to change to overcome challenges. Two of Wands
Card 11: This is how you can resolve any differences and how you can improve the relationship and take it to the next level. Ten of Swords

The Two of Wands is usually a stubborn person who is waiting for something to arrive This aspect of the relationship needs to change.This is the card of personal power and both individuals need to realize that relationship is not about their personal power play.

The differences can be resolved by putting an end to the older themes and patterns of the relationship. The 10 of Swords calls for an end to old habits and behaviors.

Card 12: Crucial Insight; additional advice or outcome.

Ace of Swords in this position shows that there will be a new fresh start, with a clear understanding of the relationship. This is also a card of mental clarity which will be the essence of the relationship if the advice is followed.

Overall we have 5 majors, 4 wands and 3 swords. There are two aces.

A majority of major arcana reveals that there are things which are out of control of the querent. A majority of wands on querent 1's side shows she is more hasty and impulsive. The suit of Cups is missing and also Pentacles. There is a lack of emotional understanding and a lack of practicality. Things are just heated up and blowing and will cool off shortly.

Relationship Cross Spread

Originally found here

This spread is done for a couple who is having a good/bad time and they have no idea where they are heading.

1. Querent's position in the relationship:
Two of Swords:
Two is a number of duality, choices and partnership. The suit of Swords is associated with mind and thinking. With Mercury being retrograde, we find the querent in a position of tension and mental dilemma. He is unable to decide what he wants to do and this is keeping him blocked. In the card we can see the lady sitting in front of two roads going in opposite directions. She has sort of given up on situation the
 way she is sitting crossing the swords at her heart, She is not sure or she is hesitant to make a choice.

2. Querent's partner's position in the relationship:
The Tower
This card is about your whole world falling apart. This usually happens out of blue when something just happens and the next moment everything around you is just breaking loose. It looks like the partner is ruined or destructed in the relationship. It can also be a way to break everything and then starting afresh.In the picture we can see the lightening has struck and things are falling apart. People are jumping out of window to rescue themselves.

3. The past
Nine of Cups
This is the wish card of the deck. When this card appears consider yourself lucky because your biggest wish will be fulfilled. In the past position we can say that they have been very happy in the past. They wished for each other and the basis of the relationship is their wish to be with each other.

4. What is between them right now:
Eight of Swords

Eight is the number of balance and karma. Swords is the suit of mind and intellect. This card tells us that there are problems, possibly to do with communication with this couple. There are misunderstandings between them. Here we see a lady blindfolded (not knowing the facts) and her hands are tied (helplessness) and there are swords around her (problems and misunderstandings).


5. The future:
Eight of Cups
Another eight.Here we see the couple leaving old problems and misunderstandings behind and moving to the new happier times. There can be a change of scene for better between them. But right now there is a need to find a distraction from each other. This card shows feeling of being dejected.

Summary: Right at this time things are not right between them. There are problems which need clear communication. I pulled one extra card as "ADVICE" card to improve the situation and no doubt, I pulled

This card tells the couple to be clear to each other, talk things through and start afresh. There is a need to be "LOUD" and clear with each other.

The Spread has 2 swords, 2 cups and 1 major in this spread excluding the advice card. The Swords and Cups are Air and Water which are friendly but passive. There is a need to be calm and talk things through.The Past , Present and Future positions are 9, 8 and 8 which show that things have rather gone a notch down between them and will remain like now for a little time in to future. 8 appeared twice which is also the number for manifestation, karma and ego. They must let go of their selfishness in order to save the relationship.

14 cards Relationships Mirror Mirror Spread

Origin: Psychic Revelation ©


This reading is done for a couple who have been dating for a rather long time. The querent is worried why the relationship is not moving forward from there.

Cards:

How the querent sees herself:
Conflict and Defeat
Looks like some self-esteem issues which need addressing. She looks like she is in a depressing condition where she has lost hope to win the battle.

How the partner sees the querent.
Wisdom
The partner looks at her in a special way regarding her intellect and knowledge. This card is like The Hierophant in the traditional tarot decks. The partner looks up to her definitely.

How the querent sees their relationship.
Fulfilment of wishes
She seems to have lost of expectations from the relationship. This card is like the 9 of Cups from the Tarot, the wish card. She looks at the relationship very positively.

How the partner sees their relationship.
Throat Chakra & Obstacles and Challenge
When I draw a Chakra card I also draw a description card. The partner finds the relationship a challenge. This explains a lot about the situation why they are not moving forward.

What the querent wants.
Moving on
Definitely. She wants things to move, some action and some growth in the relationship.

What the partner wants.
Light
This card tells me that there are some matters which are not yet resolved for the partner. There are issues which he needs to deal with, things which need to come to surface before he can start taking an action. This explains why he looks at the relationship as a challenge.
The Light card is also archetype Sun. This card may also suggest that the partner does not want to lose his freedom yet.

What the querent needs.
Foundation and Achievement.
There is a difference between wanting something and a need for something. She wants to move on but what she actually needs in the relationship is the time to build a solid foundation before moving on.

What the partner needs.
Financial and Material Changes
Partner wants freedom from responsibilities, light to guide him, but he needs to make some serious material and financial changes before things can be resolved.

Influences acting in favor of the querent.
Shadow
The archetype Moon. This card tells us that there are things in hiding, things are not clear yet which is serving  good for the querent. This will give her time to evaluate and reassess her decisions.

Influences acting against the querent.
New beginnings
Not the right time to start afresh. Take this time to evaluate things. Dong anything new at this time is not recommended.

Influences acting in favor of the querent's partner.
Patience:
The slower things go, the better it is for him. Give him his time and he will come around.

Influences acting against the querent's partner.
Power
This is not a time to control the situation. Its rather a time to b patient and not forcing anything on your partner.

What the querent needs to do.
Fertility
Be nurturing, mother-like, grow as a person and let the relationship take its time.

What the partner needs to do.
Accelerated Motion:
Partner definitely needs to pace up a little. He needs to make some changes and he has time on his hand too, but this should not slow him down.

In this reading we have 7 majors (50%) cards which suggest some major changes at each partner's own side are required.

Is he the one Tarot Spread

Origin: Psychic Revelation ©

Cards:

Psychic Tarot by John Holland

Is he potentially "the one" for you?

Recognition and Reward:
This card relates to the 3 of Pentacles in the traditional tarot meanings. This card is about getting recognised for one's work. The card relates to the physical aspects. I will take that as a Yes, there is a potential.

Is commitment/marriage a possibility with this person?
Awareness:
This card is like the Magician card, the new beginning, the ability to create whatever you want. This card makes you aware of your abilities, powers and the creativity which you have but you might not have recognised yet. The card in this position makes you aware of your power to make it turn into anything you want. Its "up to you" kind of statement. Be aware of your own powers and abilities.

Influences standing in the way of a relationship:
Conflict and Defeat
This card relates to one's desire to win the situation any way, even if it means hurting the other person. This is what happens when we try to make the relationship more like a boxing ring. This is not helping your relationship at all.Work with each other, not against each other. Losing an argument is better than losing the relationship.

Influences acting in favor of a relationship.
Discontent and Boredom:
If you have been facing both of these things in your life right now, this card is a reminder that this element for having an adventure or having some fun together is what is bringing you two closer. Find some activity to do together.

What can the querent do to help (or be ready for) this person (to) become part of their life?
Truth
Be true, to yourself and to this person. Do not fake your feelings and do not fake the relationship. Get in touch with yourself and find what is it that you actually want from this relationship. The truth will help you in getting ready for them to enter your life.

What does this person need to do before they are ready to become part of the querent's life?
Passion Ignited
This explains the Discontent and Boredom card. You need to ignite the passion, find the spark, before you actually become a permanent part of their life.

Will the querent be happy with this person?
Choose Wisely
Happiness cannot be measured neither can it be weighed or searched for because it is lying inside us all along. We get distracted and de-tracked resulting in being unhappy, but actually you can always choose to be happy.

Ready to Commit Spread

Original post and author here

I did this spread for myself, regarding this situation with a Man who just re-entered my life.

Paulina Tarot Decks
by Paulina Cassidy, 2008

The cards meanings:

The Left column: If commit:
Short-term outcome:
The Hermit: This is a card of self-reflection, meditation, soul-searching and finding answers and solutions to problems within one self. This tells me if I commit, in short-term I will find myself trying to look for truth, may be inside myself. The card is also the card of detachment, not feeling like romance or love, rather being more introspective.Turning cold, in other words.

Long-Term outcome:
Four of Coins
Four of Coins is the card where one is blocking oneself may be out of fear that someone might take away what you have. This card also is the card for holding on to things longer than necessary, living in a fear of losing them. Basically an insecurity. I feel this way usually when someone or something is important to me. So if committing to someone suggests this in long-term, it makes very much sense.

The Right Column: If I do not commit:
Short-term outcome:
Three of Swords:
It will break my heart. That is so apparent. If I tell him I'm not ready to commit he will get into the Four of Coins phase and in that he will hurt me.

Long-Term Outcome:
The Magician
I often get this card when I ask for help from tarot regarding my love life. This card makes you believe that you are capable of creating miracles. This card also signifies new beginnings, energy, learning and skill acquisition.

Central card: The Advice:
Ten of Cups:
The wonderful relationships card. This card in advice position tells me to not only think about myself, and my personal goals and wishes but also think about the people who are around me. This card is the card of family. I should not only think what I want, I need to reconsider my family's happiness as well.This can include him too.

How can I incorporate this advice:
 Page of Swords and The Chariot
Pages are the learners. The Page of Swords has a thirst for knowledge, and analysing what they learn. This also represents a matter which is in infancy. The Chariot is card of victory, moving fast, and willpower.The Chariot may also mean steadying one's horses (power) in one direction.

This together tells me that the advice can be incorporated by observing the surroundings, how things are going what is happening, and then using the willpower and the knowledge together I will be able to find the ultimate emotional fulfilment which is the advice given by the reading.

The Magic Door Spread by Lisa Frideborg Lloyd

The spread original author and explanation here.

This spread relates to a Lady who is in a confused state whether or not to open the door to reach back the person she recently cut ties with, but now wants him back.

1. Your motivation – The first card shows you the real underlying reason for your desire to reconnect. It indicates if you want them back to soothe a bruised ego or if there is true love there. It tells you if you feel that you didn’t learn all you needed to learn or if you are just struggling with letting go.


The Star: This is the card of hope and spiritual guidance. When this card appears in your spread, you know that your spiritual guides are watching over you. As a motivation, this shows that you see hope with this person. You know somewhere in your heart that he is the right person for you or you want to give you two a chance to reach the higher level of spiritual fulfilment. This is the reason you want to make your way back in his life.


2. & 3. What you had – These two cards represent the relationship dynamic you had in the past and sheds further light on the first card.

King of Cups and 5 of Wands


The King of Cups is a man who is family-oriented, emotional, caring, supportive. Basically a very kind and loving man. This explains why you see hope with this person. May be he is the ideal or close to the ideal man you want to be with. But the 5 of Wands show that there have been some competition, some conflicts which needed resolution. This card is a card of competition, so the King of Cups can also be the other person who influenced the situation by making it a competition in the past.


4. The handle – This card shows you what action you would need to take to reconnect. A card such as The Hanged Man shows that it won’t matter what you do, you’ll just have to surrender and wait for the future to unfold. Look for the Fire (Wands+Majors) and Air (Swords+Majors) cards to indicate that taking action will pay off.


Queen of Coins, which is Earth. No Fire and Swords. The Queen of Coins is the feminine, nurturing, home and hearth kind of lady. she is nurturing, she enjoys good things around her and is always admiring whatever she has. The strategy here is the stereotypical feminine one. Do not chase it, but be available and let them come to you. This card also reminds you to get in touch with your more natural side, enjoy the good things in you and around you which are natural, no superficiality. Queen of Coins is not the action Queen, she is just the kind of woman who enjoys nature and what it has to offer.


5. The lock – This is the main challenge/obstacle that lies between you and your AWOL lover.


The Lovers. This card in this position was a confusion for me. This card is the ultimate card of love, the card of relationship then why is it a challenge? Then I realized that this card is also associated with Gemini and duality. The challenge is to merge the two, forget the individuality.The challenge is the duality associated with this card.


6. An outside influence currently affecting the situation – Queen of Wands:


She is a fiery, action-oriented and dominating woman. She needs to be on top of the situation every time. This is a woman with lot of fire energy. She is an active, upbeat woman or another part of your personality that is influencing the situation.


To see two ladies from opposite suits, and the Lovers between them as a door, The challenge is clarified. This lady in question needs to modify her energy in order to unlock the door to reconnect to the person. The Two Queens are the opposites that need to be balanced, merged, and then utilize that energy to unlock the door. The Lovers is also a card of Choices, so this also shows that she needs to make a choice between the two personalities she has, the Queen of Wands and the Queen of Coins. The obstacle lies within her, not in the relationship.


7. 8. & 9. What lies on the other side of the door – If you know that it is best not to push through, you’ll at least have some idea of what is happening there and why things are best left alone. He could have moved on emotionally or he could be struggling with stuff that you can’t help him with.


Temperance, 3 of Cups and 8 of Pentacles


Temperance is the card of mixing and matching, striking a balance, forgiving yourself and keeping calm. The 3 of Cups is the card of reunion and celebration, rejoice and happiness. The 8 of Pentacles is the skills, being busy in completing your task, learning a new skill and getting the project done. The cards together suggest that on the other side of door, she will learn to strike a balance with enjoyment and working both at same times.She might have to do some work to reconnect, but it will pay off eventually.


10. The key – If you received a green light for using that door handle, then this is the key that unlocks the lock and gives you the understanding you need to open the door.


With the presence of Star, Lovers, the problem being identified and Temperance and 3 of Cups for future position, I pulled a 10th card,


Page of Coins:


The Handle being Queen of Coins and the Key being Page of Coins, there is strong emphasis on using the earthy energy. The requirement of the situation is being slow, stable, consistent and determined. Being fiery or energetic will not help the situation. The Coins in both position tell me that the matter needs to be handled very slowly, there is no room for being hasty.

Lessons and Challenges Relationship Tarot Spread

This spread is a property of Lisa Fridegborg Lloyd here.


This spread has been done for two people, who are in a confused friends-lovers state of relationship and have reconnected to each other after a break of 3-4 months.

The psychic Tarot by John Holland

1. Your Current Lesson
Suffering in Silence. Many times in life we are faced by challenges and we are faced by some harsh realities. Sometimes we get to react strongly, but at other times we have to learn to be quiet, no matter how bad it hurts and how bad the situation gets, its wiser to stay quiet just to let the relationship grow on its own.

2. Your Current Challenge
Triumph. Victory means different things to different people. Here this card associates with the current lesson. One does not always win by fighting back, sometimes the one who is more patient also wins the situation over.
3. Your Partner’s Current Lesson
Base Chakra. This Chakra is associated to the very core of a person. This chakra is associated with the colour red and is present at the root of spinal column. In the spiritual lessons term, this chakra relates to the material world lessons. The emotional and mental issues with this chakra are the belief and self-esteem, feelings of security and family. The partner needs to work on their self-esteem. his probably be the reason why the relationship is going back and forth.

4. Your Partner’s Current Challenge
Victory and Success. This is the interesting part because both partners are challenged to win, and they both can if they work together in one direction instead of fighting each other off.

5. Your Lesson as Couple
Conflict and Defeat. This card is the card of giving up. This also relates to the first partner's lesson. Sometimes you have to give up in order to win the relationship.

6. Your Challenge as a Couple
Spiritual Union: We see a really nice card here. Conflicts, arguments, and above all ego, are the things which eat up at a relationship. The couple is facing a challenge of spiritual union instead of a physical or mental union. They achieve that, make their spirits work on same frequency and the relationship will not be a challenge anymore.

7. Advice About the Best Course of Action
The Waiting Game. aww something are meant to happen on their own time and no matter what we do, we can not push the matter. This is the thing here with this couple. They can do nothing but let time take its course.

8. The Outcome (Provided the Advice is Acted On)
Partnership and Aliances.Finally they have something worth it in the end. If they wait, instead of trying to push their relationship from one state to another or push back to the former state, there is a strong chance they end up being partners where spiritual union also exists.