Mother issues & resolving them!

For all those people who have an interest in astrology, The Moon in our charts sometimes represents Mother  & a Moon-Pluto & Moon-Mars Opposition is a classic aspect for "Mother issues". The Moon-Pluto opposition can be explained as:

The frame of reference you choose to portray your relationship with your mother will play a decisive role in all of your close personal relationships

& Moon-Mars opposition as:

Part of this aggressive and assertive nature may be rooted in your relationship with your mother. Childhood feelings may have been denied through a lack of emotional contact, or through having to submit to an oppressive home - The Strange House

 So I have these both oppositions. I usually draw a daily card for love reading for the day. Its mainly for practising & enhancing my understanding of deck in terms of relationships & love readings.

For last three days, I have been drawing The Moon card daily. Just now when I was looking into it, I found a website that relates The Moon card to Mother Issues & all of sudden I was reminded of the article I read on a website just three days ago, which was about our attraction towards emotionally unavailable people mainly because we have been deprived of a fathers or mothers love in childhood.
Then it just hit me.

I have already ponder over the fact that I have a difficult relationship with my mother, my chart confirms it, & so does my reading of my life. This relationship alone has effected more areas of my life than any other thing ever. I try hard to reach a comfortable stance with her but somehow does not happen at all. She is a double Scorpio with a Day number 4 & Life Path 9.

So enough with the story now, I pulled a one card to ask, what should I do to improve my relationship with my mother.

This card is number 20, Judgement card from the Major arcana. Judgement card is the card of re-birth, starting over, letting the past go & rest in past. Astrologically this card is ruled by Pluto & The Moon  corresponds with Moon. So basically its the Moon-Pluto aspect here just intensified in my reading.  This card also represents a calling, an awakening that I need to wake up & address all those issues that are lying buried in my past. When you understand a problem & admit that you have a problem, 70% of it is already solved just there.

Another meaning associated with this card is absolution. There is a need to let go of the past, forgive each other & forget whatever happened.

The problem is, I'm willing to do that, but may be she is not even though I'm the one suffering this more than her!!!

God bless her!

A simple Relationship Spread

Original spread explained by author of the blog Here

Her Heart:
The High Priestess

In her heart, she is following her intuition & whatever her inner-voice tells her. She is waiting, patiently for events to unfold & her only guidance is her heart & whatever is within. She is willing to wait & see what reveals itself.

Her Mind:
Knight of Swords

In her mind, she is ready to take action, move forward. She wants to act on impulse, cut the crap & see all the mystery behind it all.

The cards we have for her are opposites, she is definitely facing a mind vs. heart battle. Her heart tells her to stand still, & her mind tells her to be all rational & reasonable about it.

His Heart:
Three of Swords

Oops! He is going through some kind of pain, most probably hurt with some words (May be when she said something like Knight of Swords, listening to her Head only, she unintentionally hurt him). He is in pain, but what he knows is what he was supposed to know.

His Mind:
Temperance

He is trying to be calm, and finding healing (for his heart may be). He is showing balance, he is mentally stable, working patiently towards his goal.

His situation looks interesting too, he is not having any heart against head battle. He is rather working them together to create his comfort & peace.

Foundation of the relationship:
Judgement

A new fresh start is the foundation of this relationship.This relationship is purely based on a reawakening & knowing what you must do. The couple actually told that this was their second encounter & they decided to give it another go this time.

Advice: FOR HER
Knight of Wands

Do now, think later. Be adventurous, leave the complications & the head vs. heart right where it is. You can do it & you must put on your best charming face & your best adventurous self & do whatever the heat of the moment suggests.

Outcome:
Ten of Cups

Oh... wow! This is great. You can actually have this relationship reaching the best potential if the advice is followed. Ten of Cups assures there is a complete emotional satisfaction guaranteed if you just go for it.

Looking at this spread:
She is definitely torn in two different direction, which makes her all gloomy. He on the other hand is trying to cope /heal his wounds. Their relationship is based on a true calling from heaven & they must wake up to this call which brought them together. She must be daring & confident in this relationship & she will have her fairy-tale happy ending.

Tarotscopes for December 2012

Tarotscope for December 2012

Love & Romance:

Three of Swords - 9 of Pentacles
Three of Swords is definitely not a good card for Love & Romance but its the kind of pain which is necessary for me to achieve the self-sufficiency & independence I really need at an emotional level. Three of Swords is a card which takes you through pain, sharp, breath-taking pain. I know I have to go through it once & forever, in order to reach the point where I can be happy on my own, like the lady in Nine of Pentacles.

Home & Family:

Judgement - The Fool

Judgement is the card where you have completed a cycle, the past is in past & now you are ready for facing the results. This also calls for a new wake up call, to embark on a new journey which is further reinforced by the Fool. It can also suggest that I might be judged for my actions, specially the actions which appear fool or child-like.

Work & Finances:

Nine of wands - Page of Wands

Having two Wands, the cards of Fire add up enthusiasm & energy in the career matters, but at the same time it can be a warning for being over-efficient. Nine of Wands puts me in a defensive position, possibly because of the experiences from past, thus resulting in having the strength to fight for anything that might come my way at work. But I will try to be cautious of my actions, just because I'm being defensive. Forewarned is Forearmed and this will result in a good news (Pages are messengers) & the news will likely be good. I'm quite hopeful if I show my strength, I can have it well.

Will I find true love

Original spread here:

1) Will the querent ever find true love?

The Moon:

 Maybe. Caution is advised. Deception or self-delusion could be indicated. This card is not one of my favourite cards. There is an element of delusion, fear & strange passions in this card. I think either I'm too afraid of love or I'm just having an illusion of love, but may be no true love for me or when I have it, I'm just too scared to accept it.

This card looks like more like an unexpected situation that kind of bewilders you.

2) Will the attraction be instant or a slow-burning realization?

Seven of wands:

Wands is fire, & fire is passion & impulsive but this card shows a man struggling & working hard. so I believe it will be more of a struggle which explains the card 1.

3) What will this person be like physically?

The World

Lean, thin, complete, a balanced & complete package (hehe)

4) What will this person be like emotionally?

Ace of Cups

I see he is too emotional & it explains the card 1 & 2. If he is too emotional that will automatically make me confused & thus, the struggle.

5) Are there issues the querent needs to deal with that are delaying a meeting/relationship with this person?

Judgement

I need to start over. I need to let go, forgive & forget, leave the past behind & start a complete life over. I'm just about there.

6) Are there issues this person needs to deal with that are preventing a meeting/relationship?

King of Cups

He seems too emotional to me that is why so many emotional water cards coming up. This card also shows he needs to keep his emotional side in check.

7) When/where/how will the querent meet this person?

The Magician

Some place fun, creative & where there is everything available and you have to make something out of it. Some skill learning class or a place where you are the centre of attention.

I pulled an extra card for timing & I got Temperance which rules Sagittarius. We are about to enter Sagittarius period in about two months. Lets see what happens.

5/8 cards are major arcana which shows me things are out of my hands & there is destiny & major events happening in the regard. There is a complete absence of Pentacles & Swords which shows there is a need for logical thinking & practicality.