When Will Cupid Strike

Andy recently posted a spread on his blog here which is basically, about what, when & how of "when will I meet the one".

1. Why you've not found love/partner.

Ten of Swords:

This card has appeared for me more often than any other card in a love reading. Basically this card talks about ending,  completion & you have hit the rock bottom. Its been longer than 3yrs now & somehow, mentally I'm still getting over it. 

This card can literally mean feeling like a victim. Although I do admit my mistakes when I look back & talk about my past, I do admit my mistakes & I did learn a lot from them. Somehow I am still not ready to get up, pull the swords out of my back & move on. I have to get out of this self-pity like approach in love.

2. How to overcome any issues in card one.

Queen of Pentacles:

This Queen, unlike the Queen of Wands (Fire) is very serious about relationships. she does not believe in short-term flings or just flirting with anyone. She is the woman who would protect her King, make a home with him, serve him breakfast every morning & make babies with him. 

This Queen may also be a woman, other than myself, who can help me with overcoming my fear of "failing" my next relationship. I usually do not make friends with Earth signs, although I have lot of Earth in me, but this woman can be an example for me, how to make a relationship successful.

3. What is the most positive thing you can do now.

Four of Pentacles:

This is the card I used to describe my ex actually. This man in this picture actually often reminded me of him, because in his case I did just that, held on TOO tightly. 

This card is all about holding on tight. Since its a Four number & also Pentacles, we can relate it to material security & stability too. This is exactly what I am doing right now, & letting matters lose as well at the same time, because I believe I sometimes try to be too much in control of circumstances ..

Both How to & what to do are pentacles. I see that financial matters and stability, more practical approach is needed. Its really hard for me with Venus in Gemini but I have lot of Earth in me, so I just need to let loose.

4. Who is the partner for you.

Nine of Pentacles:

Interestingly, when I put y story or my goals in cards, Nine of Pentacles is always the card I put before 10 of Cups and 10 of Pentacles, these two cards being the ultimate goal of mine in terms of relationships. I want to be happy and care-free and financially well-off on my own, forming my own individual identity before I step in to a relationship. Now the same card is representing the man for me. This person is someone on-my-own type, which is BTW my type. This man is more a self-reliant type & is possibly enjoying the fruits of his labours right now & one thing he misses is Love.

Another reference that is made with this card is though, that of a person who is happily single. This actually worries me a bit, because when you are under the influence of Nine of Pentacles card, you just do not want to be in a relationship.

5. Where you will meet.

Nine of Cups:

The only place I can think when I look at this card is an exhibition. The Cups suit is also related to family & emotions, so someone in family is presenting something, may be a friend's celebration or something. 

6. When you will meet.

Emperor

The only Major arcana card in my spread which is easy to pin point the time since Emperor is associated with Aries. Sun will be moving to Aries in next month. Lets see what happens...

SUMMARY: 

There is the dominant suit of Pentacles, so despite the Nine of Pentacles as "HIM" I'm still thinking if it will be something long-term. 

I welcome opinions!!

One Card Answer Spread; Whats keeping him busy

Quite recently I have started working with lesser and lesser number of cards. The reason being, they are simple & straight forward. If I pull out too many cards, I totally miss the message each one of them wants to tell me, individually.

I have been working a lot on my Daily Love Tarot card, which is my card for the day focusing on my Love Life only. The results have been marvellous. The cards are amazing.

Today I asked a question about a man who has been pretty detached lately. I have been pulling 5 of Cups (Feeling rejected), 3 of Pentacles (Focusing on career) & Page of Swords (lack of romance) lately & this is what is happening.

Q: Why is he not communicating with me like before?

This card, when appeared, took me a bit by surprise. I was expecting Pentacles, work, burdens etc. Boy, what was I thinking. This card appearing for my question tells me he is busy celebrating something he has achieved. This reminds me of the last time we talked & he told me how happy he was with his achievements & how he loves enjoying the fruits of his labours.

This card is also about feeling content & satisfied. I can imagine this will give him a drive to work more, to achieve more, to set more goals for himself. So goal-driven he is!

The thing that makes me happy is that he is happy & satisfied & not burdened etc. I think he is just taking his time away from me!

Celtic Cross reading

This reading is done for a friend J who is going through some uncertain complicated circumstances in her relationship with an overly-obsessed lover.

1. The Situation as it is now:

This card appears when things are miserable, but there is hope and a desire for betterment. There is no disappointment with this card, there is a sense of optimism. There is a quest for something better and you are willing to take the risk of leaving the imperfect things behind.

2. Obstacles and Challenges

Financial and material issues seem important in this relationship. Aces are also the beginnings and Pentacles are the financial and practical matters. So there is a financial opportunity or the lack of it which is the challenge here.Starting afresh and that too with lot of practicality is needed.

3. Root of the matter: what caused this situation:

A stand-still and wait and see has led to this situation. There is nothing happening, things are not going anywhere and this is causing all the frustration. This explains why the Ace, a beginning, is the challenge. The status quo needs to be changed.

4. Past:

Things have been the best they can be in the past. We may also say the best days are over now. It was like a dream come true, and now you have woke up.

5. Immediate future:

This is a motherly, nurturing woman who is very sensitive & caring. As the immediate future,it looks like things will improve a lot in their relationship soon enough.

6. Long term future:

There will be strength to tolerate and patiently handle each other. There is a lot of strength coming in too making the bond stronger. One of the partners might go a little wild but the other has strength to handle it.

7. You, right now:

This explains her situation pretty well. She finds herself trapped in a situation where she cannot stay and she cannot leave. There are misunderstandings and lack of communication. There is also helplessness.

8. Environment, what surrounds you right now:

Things are too still and stubborn right now. There is a lot of unnecessary restriction around you. You are supposed to hold on tight, and not let go. Your environment wants you to make sure you are secure, financially probably.

9. Hopes and fears:

You have a hope that if you wait out on things, they might improve, but at the same time you are scared that if you wait too long, it will be like time wasted. The outcome of waiting, with this card, is usually success. so hang on.

10, 11, 12- Outcome
Page of Pentacles, Five of Swords, The Moon

There is a sense of betrayal and deception which is planned and imposed on the situation. In the end you might end up asking yourself what have I done and was it worth it?

There is a serious lack of Wands in this suit so there is no action going on. There are 4 Pentacles so things will go very slow. The future looks good for her in either case, if she stays or leaves, but the outcome suggests its better to learn the lesson and move on. 

Will he come back Tarot spread (Updated)

Original spread here;

It should have been "Should he come back?" spread because it gives us so much insight into situation. I have already done this spread once and now I need to do it again.

Will he come back tarot spread

The First card tells motivation why you want this person back;

King of Swords:
I usually look at court cards as people instead of as feelings or situations. The King of Swords can be the "he" in question. The reason for wanting him back is because either the querent is fancied by his intellect and his gift of gab or the querent wants things to be fair and just. The attribute of fair and just comes from this man's sword he is holding.

 The querent said she wants him back because there have been some misunderstandings and she wants to clarify those and then peacefully decide whether to move on but she believes she deserves a chance to be understood.


Past is Cards 2 & 3:
Three of Wands and Ten of Pentacles

The Three of Wands is about dreaming big, looking at bigger picture and planning how to make your dreams come true. The Ten of Pentacles is the card of ultimate material success and financial abundance. Being number 10 in the suits of Pentacles, its the achievement of dreams, financially well-off period, success and basically a great card. Together it looks like they had a long-term planning to grow old together or live happily-ever-after. The Ten of Pentacles in past position also indicates that the foundation of the matter is material comfort.

The querent updated that financial problems lead to the current situation. They had a plan for having family and having a life-time together but somehow things did not pan out the way they should have.

The Action/Handle of the door:
This card number 4 tells what needs to be done to bring him back:
Temperance:
This card means, patience, trying to find balance, healing, finding middle ground in an argument, and above all, mixing different actions to find the right thing. The Temperance is also a card which requires calm and patience so I believe no fast action will do that. She needs to find the right amount of push and pull to bring this guy back. First of all, step back, break contact, find inner-peace, find inner-strength, heal yourself, and also make sure you look at both sides of the story. If you find him pushing you away there is a reason probably. Try to be patient, very calm.

The Challenge:
Three of Swords;
ohh not good. This looks like what has separated you two is hurting each other's feelings and now both feel sad and heartbroken and this is the main challenge. Its funny that heartbreak and sorrow is the lock and the action is healing and finding peace. This card does not only show the pain you are feeling, but also the pain you are inflicting upon others. With Temperance, it means you have to heal what you have inflicted upon both you and him.

Outside influences on situation:
The World:
The outer influences on the situation look welcoming. There has been a project which reached its end successfully. It also shows that both people are busy right now with their work or their lives. But its a good card and the outside influences are not negatively effecting the situation.

What lies on the other side:
Knight of Wands, Death & Nine of Cups
The Knights are usually messengers. This knight brings sudden solutions. This knight is fast and adventurous. He can also be a man coming in your time, can be the ex-man too. The Death card represents something coming to an end and The Nine of Cups is the ultimately wish card which fulfils your wishes.
Them three together say that there is a man coming up, or a new adventure coming up which will quickly end a chapter in querent's life and whatever querent's been wishing for, she will have better than that.

The Key:
Tower:
This card basically talks about bringing it all down and then starting fresh. This card typically says, change the situation and change it drastically. Even if it means breaking ties and then re-building them, do that.

Overall, it looks like things were great with them, and now she misses him. She can be patient and should focus on self-healing because the main challenge that lies between them is the pain and sorrow. The outside influences are also supporting her. In future there can be a quick ending to what she has been wishing for but she will get far better than what she wanted. She might have to rebuild the relationship from zero.

There are 2 swords, 2 wands, 1 cups and 1 Pentacles card. Four cards are major cards which indicate most of the things are out of her control.

I welcome opinions and suggestions on this spread and its interpretation. 


Update: Well the client has exactly incorporated the techniques which are elaborated by the Temperance card and they are back in touch. It has come to surface that the real reason why he was trying to get away because some of the things she said hurt him bad (Three of Swords in challenge position) because of which he was shutting her out. Things are not normal, the way they interact has changed (Death) but she is determined and happy. It looks like she will just about make it. (Nine of Cups).